I have them organized in files on my computer by month and year. When I switched to a Mac a few years ago I wasn't good about keeping this up. Recently, I took my computer to a local computer shop and paid the guy there $100 to organize all of my photos. Best $100 I've spent, considering the hours that must have taken. I back up my pictures and files using the online program Crash Plan. It's inexpensive and super easy.
Also, on occasion I will make Shutterfly photo books of specific things (like a trip or when the boys were born).
How do you get over the guilt and worry about having second baby? Will I ever love another child as much as my first born?
That's hard! I felt this same way before Everett was born. I cried about it a lot, thinking it was the end of an era with Logan. I don't know that I really got over it until Everett was here. First, I watched Logan love him and help me take care of him as a tiny baby, and that was so special! Then, as Everett got older seeing the two of them become friends and have a relationship has been the best of all. They are such a gift to one another, both as friends when they get along, and to round out each other's rough spots when they fight.
You will definitely love the second baby as much as the first because each one will be so unique and different, even if they're the same sex. You will probably be amazed at your heart's capacity to grow with love! And you might even find you are able to relax and enjoy things more the second time around since you've done it before. Good luck!
Do boys ever slow down? I'm looking forward to hours of Lego play! Will that ever happen?
I wish I had a video to post of the mayhem in our house every day. And then when Nick first comes home from work, or my FIL Al comes over, or my dad's in town... ratchet that up about ten notches. It's definitely loud and wild a lot of the time in our house.
That said, at age 4.5, Logan will sit and play with Legos for long periods of time when he's in the mood. Maybe 45 mins or an hour? Everett will sit and read books quietly for a little while, maybe 20 mins. at the most. They will both sit still and watch movies and TV shows. So... I don't know about hours of quiet play... that definitely hasn't happened yet, but maybe there's hope for you and me yet! And if not, there's always school, right? Ha! I think one boy might play more calmly and quietly than a whole herd of them mixed together, like at my house. It really is so much fun though!
What supplements do you take daily & what are your go-to's as far as your family's health?
- Whole food multivitamin: The boys take THIS kind and Nick and I take the New Chapter Organics brand
- Vitamin D in the form of cod liver oil: I take Green Pastures Butter Oil/Fermented Cod Liver Oil and the boys take the liquid kind (orange flavor- usually mixed in their yogurt or apple sauce b/c it does not taste good)
- High quality probiotic: I take THIS and the boys take a powder version (mixed in their drink or stirred in applesauce/yogurt)
- During cold and flu season only, Elderberry Syrup
It's not easy! I would say texting and Voxer are the main ways I keep in touch with my friends in this stage of life. I am horrible about finding time to talk on the phone.
I make a point to remember and acknowledge my friends' birthdays, send cards, drop off meals when needed, and generally just let them know I care, even if we can't hang out as much as we would like.
My college girlfriends and I try to plan a trip or girls' weekend at least once a year. We visit one another in between, whenever we can, but we definitely don't have any expectations or get our feelings hurt when it doesn't work. We all do what we can, when we can.
It's a little bit easier with friends who live near by and have kids around the same age. We see our neighbors outside and hang out with them a couple times a week. I plan playdates on a regular basis with my friends like Jaymi and Kimba, who stay at home or work part time.
I am part of a bible study, which is made up of a small group of my girlfriends. It's very informal and we meet once a week at each others' houses at 8:00 PM. We usually meet for a couple of months and work on a study, take a month or two off, and start back up again.
Also, every couple of weeks I try to meet a friend for coffee, drinks or a late dinner after the kids go to bed. It's hard because we're both tired, but I always leave feeling so glad I went.
I wish I had more time to spend with my friends because they mean so much to me. But I think we all understand life is busy and enjoy whatever time we have together.
What are three or four characteristics you look for in a friend?
When I think about my very closest friends, they pretty much all have these things in common:
-They are good people through and through.
-Genuine: I would have a hard time being close with someone I couldn't be "real" with.
-Someone with whom I can laugh and have some shenanigans!
Two qualities I don't like are whiny, pushover type girls or overly dramatic girls.
How do you find time as a mom to lose the weight that creeps back once you wean from breastfeeding?
Um... as I type this I am literally eating ice cream, a chocolate chip cookie and sipping a glass red wine.
What are some of our favorite recent purchases and what are you wanting to buy?
I really like this pink coat.
My mom and I have decided we both need military vests we keep seeing everywhere. (Not matching ones preferably.) They look so cute with jeans or even layered over dresses. I tried on THIS ONE at Anthropologie. It's incredibly soft, lightweight and has a very flattering cut. If it goes on sale I just may buy it. My mom found THIS ONE at Nordstrom with a much better price tag. If she doesn't get it, I just may.
What are your guilty pleasures?
The Real Housewives of OC & gummy candy!
What eye cream do you use?
What are your best breastfeeding tips?
1. If you really want to do it, stick with it and don't quit no matter what! It will get easier! It was very hard for me for various reasons in the beginning, all three times. I've dealt with oversupply and forceful letdown, lip and tongue tie, a baby who wouldn't take bottles, a baby with a dairy allergy, and worst of all- a baby who clamped his jaw down and had a piranha latch. It wasn't ever easy, but it ended up being great. I think every month that goes by gets easier!
2. Find a lactation consultant or a local LLL Chapter if you need help. Our insurance co. reimbursed me for the lactation consultant home visits, but even if they hadn't it's cheaper than formula in the long run.
3. Buy yourself some awesome Gap bras! (I talked about them in THIS post) Sorry husbands!
4. Get a free pump from your insurance company. I switched from Medela to Spectra, and this has been a game changer. My Spectra pump is so much more efficient and comfortable to use.
5. If you're having issues or in a lot of pain early on, ask your doctor to prescribe the APNO cream. It helped everything heal quickly and made a huge difference in being able to nurse Beckham.
HERE are some breastfeeding pearls of wisdom I wrote when Everett was a baby.
What time do you wake up and go to bed? Do you wake up early to have "me" time?
I normally go to bed around 10:30 or 11:00. I should go to bed earlier, but I really like having time to myself to unwind at the end of the day or spend time with Nick.
Before Beckham was born I made a point to get up early and start the day with quiet time. We're basically in survival mode in terms of sleep right now, so I take any sleep I can get and don't wake up a minute before I have to in the mornings, which means I wake up and have to be 100% "on" right away. I can tell such a big difference in my mood in the mornings, feeling rushed and frustrated with the boys, etc. I need that time to wake up and start my day on the right foot all by myself. Once things settle back down with sleep I hope I can get back to doing this again.
(Check out Kat Lee's Maximize Your Mornings for lots of good inspiration and ideas!)
How many days a week do you actually get fully dressed with hair, make up and cute clothes?
Not too long ago my friend Lindsay (who has four wonderful, polite kids!) and I were discussing this very thing. She was talking about how periodically you have to go back to the drawing board when it comes to discipline and come up with a new plan.
In July Nick and I decided it was time for a revamp. The two main things we wanted to focus on were the boys talking nicely to one another and obeying when asked to do something, rather than arguing. We had a family meeting and came up with these three rules.